This book is offered by Marty as a shared resource to members of the RA Seattle community. Copies of More than two … are now available in multiple formats through multiple online retailers. Other titles, including Polyamory and Jealousy: A More Than Two essentials guide, are also available at morethantwo.com Please support Franklin Veaux’s continuing work by making a donation via the links at the bottom of his site. And if you know of or find a way to support Eve Rickert’s continuing work, please let me know.   

  Amatonormativity “… the assumption that a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is normal for humans, in that it is a universally shared goal, and that such a relationship is normative, in the sense that it should be aimed at in preference to other relationship types”. 1. Academic review of Prof. Elizabeth Brake’s book, Minimizing marriage: Marriage, morality, and the law. 2. Blog entry by Bella DePaulo, Ph.D. (author of Living Single): Should marriage be abolished, minimized, or left alone? A philosopher explains the moral value of all caring relationships.    Aggie Sez: Couple privilege: Having it doesn’t necessarily make you an asshole (But it might) “It’s not inherently abusive to choose to enshrine aspects of couple privilege in how you conduct relationships — as long as the primary partners are making those decisions strictly as their own criteria and not presuming to impose the conditions nonconsensually after the fact. Other partners may choose to abide by their strictures, or not. And many non-primary partners choose to roll with restrictions and limitations in order to prioritize or protect primary relationships. Often they do so quite cheerfully, and everyone’s happy. But, ask the kinky people you know: When someone is routinely expected to accommodate, sacrifice, or come last — that’s a power dynamic. And presumed, unconscious, or nonconsensual power dynamics tend to be very bad news indeed.”   Angelus Morningstar: The dynamics of polyamory and couple privilege “… in accepting that the dichotomy must be hierarchy-anarchy, one makes the presumption that all non-anarchisticRead more

Cunning Minx’s Polyamory Weekly Blog. Her book 8 Things I wish I’d know about polyamory before I tried it and frakked it up is now available on Amazon. Please support Cunning Minx’s continuing work by making a donation to Cunning Minx’s tip jar on the Poly Weekly site. Cunning Minx, Feb 20, 2008 Gathered for a seminar at A Woman’s Touch in Madison, a rough draft: One: Become a different person. Adopting a non-monogamous mindset and lifestyle in a monogamous world can be a transformative process. The level of communication, self-examination and brutal honesty required for healthy relationships with yourself and your partners is very high and tends to provide a challenge to even the most secure and open people. As you explore and develop relationships, you will most likely discover things about yourself and your partners that will fundamentally change how you think and quite possibly who you are and how you view the world. As with any relationship in which long-term love is involved, you will change. Two: Welcome change and personal growth. If you crave stability and are most comfortable in a world with minimal change, you probably don’t want to be non-monogamous. In fact, you probably don’t want to be in a relationship at all, because exposing yourself to another person’s life will most assuredly change yours, no matter how stable you believe that person to be. Be prepared to find out more about yourself, your fears and your capacity to love than you ever wanted to know.Read more

  Cunning Minx: 10 Things to be prepared for when negotiating consentual non-monogamy Couple privilege Eri Kardos: Preparing your relationships for Burning Man Eve Rickert & Franklin Veaux: More than two: A practical guide to polyamory