This resource by Connie Burk, Selma Al-Aswad Dillsi, and Meg Crager is freely distributed by The NW Network of Bi, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse (NW Network).  NW Network is a Seattle-based not for profit organization that works to end violence and abuse by building loving and equitable relationships in our community and across the country. Please consider supporting their continuing work by making a donation here. 

These two pages from The revolution starts at home … are freely distributed by Incite! at incite-national.org Paperback copies of The revolution starts at home … and Color of violence: the INCITE! anthology are both available now at Amazon.  Please consider supporting the continuing work of INCITE! by making a donation here. 

This curriculum was created by Mariame Kaba, Micah Bazant, Billy Dee, and Ann Russo in connection with Project NIA, a Chicago based not for profit dedicated to the principles of participatory community justice. You can follow and support Project NIA via their Facebook page. This curriculum is freely distributed by multiple online sources. 

This article is freely distributed by the Challenging Male Supremacy Project (CMS) and was published in 2011 as part of The Revolution Starts At Home.  Paperback copies of The revolution starts at home … and Color of violence: the INCITE! anthology are both available now at Amazon.  Please consider supporting the continuing work of the Challenging Male Supremacy Project by making a donation here or supporting the continuing work INCITE! by making a donation here. 

This book is freely distributed by Incite! at incite-national.org Paperback copies of The revolution starts at home … and Color of violence: the INCITE! anthology are both available now at Amazon.  Please consider supporting the continuing work of INCITE! by making a donation here. 

In a culture that limits the definition of relationship, we seek to expand it. We value the vast dynamic diversity that exists in the ways we approach and shape our relationships. Relationship Anarchy as idea or philosophy Seattle Relationship Anarchy Our Code of Ethics New member information   Calendar (private) Topic suggestion form Retreats    

We’re a group of people who get together each month to openly discuss the ways that we shape our relationships. Our topics tend to focus on aspects of consentual non-monogamy, but that’s not requisite for attending. So then what’s requisite for attending? Our code of ethics: Our events are for people who feel strongly aligned with our community’s code of ethics. Please read and understand our code of ethics. It’s important to us. One of the facets of our code of ethics that we’d like to highlight is respecting the identities of the people who choose to come and participate. One of the ways that we do that is a pronoun round in each group wherein each person will be asked their pronouns. You may never have thought of your pronouns and that’s okay. Please let us know the pronouns that you use in your daily life. It’s a matter of fundamental respect of people to respect someone’s pronouns and part of that is to treat the process with respect. It’s a privilege to never have thought of your pronouns, so we ask you to be respectful and conscientious throughout this process and in this space. This means that it is not acceptable to make jokes about gender, sexuality, or pronouns themselves at RA. Another is supporting each other through our mistakes and triumphs. For example, you may misgender someone or say something thoughtless. Please know that if you do, another community member may gently correct you. What’s important whenRead more

In a culture that limits the definition of relationship, we seek to expand it. We value the vast dynamic diversity that exists in the ways we approach and shape our relationships. The path is wide. Empathy & Compassion We treat each other with care and respect in ways that stretch beyond tolerance. We seek to erode and dispel shame in the space where we celebrate, process, and support each other’s dazzlingly different choices, experiences, histories, perspectives, explorations, difficulties and triumphs, regardless of whether they are congruent or divergent from our own. We honor each individual’s expression of identity; including and not limited to relationship structure, spiritual practices, sexual identity, gender identity, culture, race, ethnicity, age, physical ability, emotional ability, mental health, class, or musical preference. We strive to dissolve preconceived ideas, assumptions, and judgment of those differences. Nobody’s relationship looks exactly like another’s and we think that’s fucking rad. Radical Authenticity We give and are given the opportunity to manifest radical authenticity with each other, to go deep with less fear of condemnation for our identity or our choices. We are invested in each other, through mistakes and triumphs. Social Connectedness We believe in the ineffable magic of showing up; we strive to engage each other in-person. Relationships are an important and powerful vehicle for change. We seek to create and strengthen relationships in a purposeful effort to restore, maintain, and enhance our well-being. Evolution Through Agency Our most profound resource is the quality of what we offer each other. By showing up and creating space forRead more